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We've been talking a lot over the past few weeks about what those limits are. We have 2 good quality 6-day blasts that are frozen and waiting. We have to find out if either of them is viable. So we've decided to do a FET and transfer both of them. It would be incredible if that worked. But knowing what happened last time, and how the endometriosis is basically poisoning my eggs, I'm just not very hopeful that it will.
So that will be our last shot for a biological child. It will be the end of fertility treatments.
That doesn't mean it will be the end of our journey. We've been discussing adoption a lot, and Daniel and I are both on the same page about it. We are comfortable with the idea, and have started doing some research about the different kinds of adoptions, timelines, and costs. We've waited so long already, and it will be very difficult to continue waiting. But with adoption, the odds of being matched with a baby are very good, and most couples are matched within 2 years. Daniel and I would feel so blessed to open our hearts and our home to a child that needs a family.
We won't be starting the adoption process until after our FET, and that will probably happen sometime next year. But in the meantime, having our limits established feels really good. The idea of continuing IVF was very stressful for me, and I really feel that it's the right decision to stop after our FET. I know many women who are able to continue IVF many times and who do end up pregnant eventually. I just don't think I'm one of those women. Emotionally or financially, it's just not something that I can handle.
And you know what, I'm okay with that. We are all different, and our journeys are different. What's right for me may be wrong for someone else. The important thing is to acknowledge where your limits are, and to feel confident when setting those limits.
Have you established limits? Please feel free to share them in the comments below!
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